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Do you recognize the picture, the book cover, and the quote? Did you have a crush on Ryan O'Neal?
Did you go to sleep with your hair wrapped around soda cans so you could get Ali McGraw's look?
If you said yes to any of the above, congratulations - you're a middle-aged romantic.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry" always made me mildly nauseated. It meant that you could make buckets of mistakes and still be forgiven without having to acknowledge that you screwed up. Even when I was a kid, I knew that there was something messed up about the super sappiness.
Real love - enduring love (the Kabbalistic theme of today's Omer count) - means quite the opposite. Love means saying you're sorry when you make a mistake. Love means being brave enough to call out the people you love when they hurt you. And love means honoring the people you love by being brave enough to admit you did something wrong.
The bottom line: Love means being human, and being human means periodically going wrong, and being wrong means never having to say you're sorry.
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