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Omer Day 6: Nurturing Love/Loving Nurturing

Take a deep breath and repeat after me: I love my body. 

How'd that go? 

If you're anything like me, it wasn't easy. 

Like a lot of women, I sometimes look in the mirror and wonder: 

Is that thing on my face a new gentle proof that I smile and laugh a lot? Is it time for my better-looking-through-chemistry visit to my hairdresser? Do I need to do more bicep curls or abs crunches in addition to my often twice-a-week spinning classes? Should I juice cleanse or do one of those drastic eat-4-days-starve-1 diet? 

In the Kabbalistic view of the Omer count, today, Day 6, is a day to reflect on the bonding aspect of loving-kindness. 

Bonding with myself means I'm comfortable with the wholeness of my body, mind, and spirit. And just as important as my mind and spirit are, being comfortable with and in my body is equally critical.

Lovingly nurturing myself asks me to take a good look in the mirror and be willing to try out: "You know, body of mine, you serve me really well, and you deserve to be treated with love and kindness."

Now repeat after me: I love my body. 

(And, by the way, I adore Queen Latifah.) 


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